How to: Fall in Love with Anyone after 1 Date

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Yes, you read the title right! This will be a post about making anyone fall head over fucking red bottom heels in love with you. This isn’t a joke. It’s Friday and I’ve got something to share with you ladies and possibly ‘gents.

Friday is a great time to try out this interesting and proven to work quiz on a date or with someone of the opposite sex willing to. I read about this quiz from an article for The New York Times that was posted about a week and a half ago. The quiz below was originally crafted by a Mandy Len Carton in an essay “To Fall In Love With Someone, Do This“. The essay then refers back to a psychological study conducted exploring intimacy and how accelerating closeness within strangers or people who don’t know each other well can lead to love. Not to beat around the bush…it’s worked before! This is the real deal but it will only work if the two people are completely uninhibited and actually ask/answer all the questions. After getting down to number 36, afterwards the two are supposed to stare into each other’s eyes ranging for 2-4 minutes! Sounds like a load of bull, but it just so happened to work for Mandy. Who knows? It could work for you. Try this exercise on your next date or with that crush you finally managed to ask out…today is the perfect time to try.

THE QUIZ

SET 1 (it’s all in the name of fun)

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

SET 2 (Shit just got real!)

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

SET 3 (be honest…)

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

*After, stare into each other’s eyes for 2-4 minutes. (Seems freaking scary but hang in there)

I haven’t tried this out myself but I think I just might on my next date (hah, if that happens). I’ll let you know how it goes and please don’t hesitate to comment below if you decide to try this out too.

XOXOXO

Porschia 😉

Get Fit: Follow these 7 Instagram accounts for a fab body!

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January is almost over which means 2015 is practically down one month. What are you waiting for to get fit? We all know that everyone’s New Years Resolutions lists have fallen by the waist side already but that doesn’t mean you should not try getting into shape. I know from personal experience that it’s super easy to become accustomed to lazy days consisting up binge watching tv shows, eating junk food and doing absolutely nothing when you don’t have to do anything. I love lazy days more than the next person but at some point it gets boring. Yes. This has happened to me. How, you ask, does being able to sleep in and do nothing all day get old? Well, I’ve started to notice that my ex-cheerleader body has begun to un-tone itself. And let’s face it, your twenties are when your metabolism begins to slow down ladies. Translation, it’s about damn time to at least muster up the time and courage to start a weekly workout schedule and learn to eat things other than fast food or Hot Cheetos.

It may be cold out since it’s still winter but Spring is right around the corner people!! Below are some links to Instagram accounts that you should follow ASAP! They have easy, at home exercises that you can do by yourself, with friends or with a significant lover 😉 Try them out, even for you lazy asses out there like me. I mean that with the sincerest love. Go Work Out! While you’ll be ready for Spring and Summer because of consistent exercise, everyone else will be rushing to get in shape at the last-minute or even wasting half their summers just getting “bikini ready”.

Sucks for them but, hey you’ll look hot.

 

Inspiring Health & Fitness Accounts:

1. @Basebodybabes 

This account is run by two sisters from Sydney who happen to be personal trainers.

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2. @cookinwithmima

Amazing recipes are posted on this account and most are healthy, what’s not to like?!

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3.@fithealthyworkouts

This account posts easy videos from various other fitness minded people so you’ll have plenty to look at.

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Fitness Queens to follow:

1. Tanya Poppett @achieving_balance

This fitness instructor shows lots of easy, no equipment needed workouts to try anywhere you have room!

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2. Dariel Rozanes @MissD411

She posts everything health and fitness related that you can imagine. Recipes, workout videos and more!

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3. Jen Esquer @jen_es_care

She utilizes strength wraps for her exercises and does a lot of Pilates so if you’re into that she’s the one for you to follow!

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4. @Progressivefitball

Want to find new cool workouts with fitness balls…then this is the account to check out. Can you say…OMG enough?…I hope to be able to do this pose in the photo below!!

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XOXOXO

Porschia 😉

Fashion Talk Friday: All About that MESH

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Fashion Talk Friday is back! This time I wanted to talk about a trend that has been around for about a year but hasn’t been fully tamped into. More and more people have been wearing it. You guessed it…mesh!! This may seem like a trend that should have stayed behind back in the day but it’s one that has comeback with fierceness and will be sticking around from now on until most likely after this upcoming spring and summer seasons. I wouldn’t be surprised if you were to see mesh detailing,perforated mesh, play on textures and garments at highly anticipated fashion shows of New York Fashion week. The New York Fashion Week begins soon in February, don’t be caught out of the loop gals. This fabric is very versatile and can be incorporated in a lot of different clothing. Whether your working out, looking for a cute office outfit or going out with the girls you will be able to utilize this trend to your needs. If you thought this trend would only work for warmer whether you might have been right but then again fashion and style is all about pushing boundaries and now a days anything is possible with enough innovative thinking. This trend can and will work in winter weather as well. Don’t believe me? Keep reading to find out. Some ways you can wear it is by laying pieces underneath it, wearing big warm coats over it, or in a perforated style (thicker mesh). Rita Ora even posted to her Instagram these photos below about 8 months ago showing off her collaboration with Adidas with a mesh detailed  hoodie and sweats.

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A lot of collections have featured mesh and plenty of celebrities have rocked looks with mesh pieces of clothing.

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from left to right: Alexander Wang, Balenciaga, Jill Sander and Vidur S/S collections

This look is here to stay, I would catch on to this and rock my ass off out doing all the other basic bitches out there. Even Queen B and her sis as seen below have rocked this trend along with the likes of fashionistas like Alexa Chung, Rita Ora, Bad girl “riri” Rihanna and the Jenner sisters. This trend is steppin up…so why don’t you too?

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This white two piece ensemble is so perf! Gotta love the chic perforated mesh detailing.

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Everyone remembers last year when Rihanna went to Paris Fashion week. She definitely helped build the mesh trend and caused a scene in this top with no bra underneath. Are you willing to try the daring look out? …or maybe stick with a bralette under.

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Rita Ora looks stunningly hardcore in this completely mesh skirt. Can you say DAMNNN?!

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Gold Soul La

Gold Soul even  sells some jaw dropping pieces for this sick trend! Shop them while you can, they are going fast. There are more than the 4 items shown. Click HERE for all mesh at Gold Soul.

*photos from Gold Soul website and pinterest

1. Boyfriend Jersey Tee $27.80

2. Net mesh skater skirt $24.80

3. White mesh midi skirt $22.80

4. Black mesh panel dress (restocking soon) $22.80

XOXOXO

Porschia 😉

#WCW Jacks Sanchez

So it’s hump day yet again…which means it’s about damn time for another #WCW a.k.a. Woman Crush Wednesdaze! (For those of you who didn’t know) This week, the amazingly talented Jacks, @jackssanchez_, the professional makeup artist from exotic Sydney,Australia is being put in the spotlight. This aussie and her makeup skills are seriously on another level. Did I mention she’s a mother of three and has been successfully married for 6 years? (Congrats girl!) This beautiful mom knows how to stay in the know, keeps looking on fleek and stays on point with her makeup. Her makeup posts range from crazy theatrical makeup looks to glam to everyday makeup that every girl probably wishes she could do so effortlessly. Not only is she a proud customer of Gold Soul La but some of her recent posts have been showcasing her bad ass Gold Soul items! This lovely lady also publishes tutorials and has tons of makeup advice on her YouTube channel. If you haven’t subscribed to this bad chick’s channel..well, what are you waiting for? Below are just a few of her many makeup masterpieces.

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Stone Cold Princess Head Chain by Gold-Soul.LA $16.80

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Antique Tribal Faux Septum Ring $24.80 (Sold Out)

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Gold Faux Bead Septum Nose Ring $11.80 (Sold out)

*Different/various style septum rings are available

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Bars of Gold Midi Ring Set $10.80

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Gold Shield Ring $2.80 (Sold Out)

More Gold-Soul ring options

Flash Tattoos

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This photo is from Misfits of Beauty a new account on Insta dedicated to lovers of makeup and it’s artistry. Check this out bitches! They are doing an amazing Makeup Challenge for January. Even though it’s started already it’s never too late…try it out.

XOXOXO Porschia 😉

@thefashionrebel

T.G.I.F. 7 Fun and Exciting Ways to Enjoy the Weekend

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Thank the lord it’s Friday..finally! I don’t know about you guys but I like the weekend. You can sleep in duh! Plus it’s the time you can go hang with your girls and relax after a long week’s worth of bills, worrying about the next move, work or guy drama. So to start this weekend off right let’s be positive and enjoy ourselves while we’re young. You only live once right? But that doesn’t mean to not take care of ourselves and our bodies.

If you haven’t read the last blog post, then go HERE and check it out for dope beats to soundtrack your life this weekend. (I know. A bit cheesy) Keep it PG for all minors ok! But the music will have you feeling some type of way until that dreadful Monday morning wake up call. In the mean time, IT”S FRIDAY!! (Drink at a healthy pace. No drinking and driving ladies and gents.)

 

1. Go Dancing

And no, I don’t mean go clubbing..which you can totally do, try something different and sign up for a fun hip hop dance class. This is a great way to get in shape and goof around at the same time. Dancing is a lot more cardio than you think. It’ll have you sweating in no time. You hardly even realize you’re working out. Trust me, I just took a hip hop class over this last weekend and fell in love. I found the exercise that will work for me! Classes tend to be pretty cheap as well. You can go alone or convince friends to tag along with you. Guilt them if you have to.(video from Janelle Ginestra’s channel)

2. Schedule an impromptu photo shoot with friends

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from Indulgy.com

 

Do you, a friend or someone you know have a camera? Then get a group together and organize a last-minute photo shoot. It’ll be fun and no one has to ever see these pictures if you don’t want. They will be fun to look at while at work for a quick laugh or to hold blackmail against a friend. Drinks can always be added.  Insert evil laugh here 

3. Go to a Drive-in Movie Theatre

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from http://www.daytrippingmom.com

I used to go see movies at drive-ins all of the time when I was younger. They are fun and you can make a cool trip out of them. You can take blankets, chairs and sneak snacks into the outside theaters (the concessions there are hella expensive lol) You also get to watch two movies for the price of one! Can’t beat that. This could be a chance to snuggle up close to a guy or girl you’ve been crushing on if you invite friends and make a group and make something special out of it. And if you don’t live close to one try making your own drive in. If you’re really lazy then just stay in and have a Netflix night, no harm in that either.

4. Throw a Pinterest Party!

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from http://www.stampington.com

If you’re like me then you have at least a dozen boards on Pinterest full of things you keep saying that you’ll try. Wether it’s the fitness board that you’ve added hundreds of pins to but haven’t started really looking at or that DIY crafts board that you were so excited about months ago, try them now. Right Now! This weekend with friends. Blast music while doing them and watch how much fun you’ll be having…you won’t even remember why you hadn’t tried this before. Add drinks if you want *wink wink

5. Iron Chef “Healthy version” contest…or not

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from http://www.freebachelorettegames.com

Invite friends (guys, girls or both) for some fun and food! You can even make it into a battle of the sexes. Cook out of the items in your kitchen (make sure to stock up on food) or better yet have the friends bring some treats with them and get creative with the dishes. Try sticking to the healthier side if you can. Or at least drink water…or something else..

6. Go To an Open Mic Night/Karaoke Bar  

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from blogs.phoenixnewtimes.com

Theres bound to be some sort of talent in your town. Or at the very least it’ll be a fun night filled with laughs. You can laugh and crack jokes at the people brave or drunk enough to get up and sing. Did I mention there’s usually no cover and drinks? It may turn out to be an unforgettable night.

7. Try a dating app/site

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from features.en.softonic.com

Ok, you guys and girls know you’ve wanted to try it but you haven’t because you think it’s too weird and only for “old people who can’t find someone”. You would be so wrong. You never really know until you try. There’s no harm in trying. There are some pretty cool ones out there such as:

Apps/sites

Tinder

 

Coffee meets Bagel

OkCupid.com

Badoo

Zoosk

Meet Me:)

Match.com

Moco

DateHookup

POF (plenty of fish)

Dating DNA free

Skout

…These are some of the cooler dating outlets to try opposed to regular meeting,dating,etc. Don’t knock it until you it. I’m currently trying out Tinder and I’ve tried OkCupid as well as C.M.B. before. Take a chance and none of your friends have to find out if you don’t want them to and feel that embarrassed about it. You aren’t the only ones having a hard time finding that special someone. Trust.

Have a great weekend and comment below telling about your weekends. #goldsoulla

XOXOXO

-Porschia 😉

 

#Haircrushwednesday: Natural Hair Movement EDITION!

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@bwatuwant

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Ok , it is Wednesday so I couldn’t pass up the chance to do a Women Crush Wednesday post… with a little bit of a twist! Today I’m putting a spotlight on this gorgeous lady @bwatuwant, but I also wanted to talk about the increasing natural hair movement taking over.

Now…let’s just take a brief moment to fully appreciate this girl’s hair, on fleek right? Here are a few more just because I’m obsessed with her and her hair at the moment!

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Model. Photo from @bwatuwant
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@cocaine_lorraine
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@kaylabella_

Sorry about that…back to the blogging. Can’t you tell how much I’m loving natural hair?!

Ok, so if you haven’t been living under a rock or better yet lazing about behind a computer screen binge watching Netflix, then you might have begun to notice girls/women in general appreciating their hair in its natural state. (The Natural Hair Movement/Community) More and more girls are going for the natural unprocessed look instead of relaxing their hair every month.

I can’t say that I haven’t been guilty of this. I mean, if you’re a black girl or bi-racial girl like me then you’ve felt the pressures of having hair that is different from most other ethnicities. Damn near all except ones of African-American decent and some islanders,Brazilians,etc. I’ve had to reevaluate myself and my hair on many occasions and I’m still learning about it and pushing myself on how to accept it. It’s tough.

It’s even worse when you have multi races courses through your veins. Growing up I was always thinking, “since I’m light-skinned why isn’t me hair more like white girls?” I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one and it’s been a long 22 years and I’m still trying to figure out what my hair’s natural texture is. But I’ve been going about it the wrong way and a lot of other girls have too. Through the years I’ve highlighted it, bleached it, cut it numerous times, and relaxed it dozens of times…none of this helps and doesn’t really solve the problem that we girls try to avoid. And that’s dealing with our raw,natural hair and accepting that it is beautiful. Straight hair is not the only way to go. Models like Stacey Hash and Miss Brit (@bwatuwant) along with many others (@kaylabella_, @cocaine_lorraine) are showing us how beautiful natural hair can be and the proper ways to take care of it.

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Model Stacey Hash

A big misconception is that this is a problem for only black girls but women of all skin colors and hair types need to be able to love and accept their natural hair. If you are thinking of transitioning or have been for a while but haven’t had the guts to do it because you don’t want to make that “big chop” there are other ways. *I’m in the middle of transitioning and I’m doing it w/o the chop.

Below is a list of YouTubers that have great videos on transitioning hair,etc. 

1.@kaylabella_

2.Summer Kellsey

3.NatuarlNeiicey

4. My Natural Sistas