HEY LOVE BUG: Unique gift ideas for your Valentine

It’s February and it’s officially Valentine’s month.

Whether you’ve got a partner to celebrate with or not, you’re going to be surrounded with the color red and love heart shapes for the next couple of weeks.

We know the struggles that guys and girls endure when shopping around for the perfect gift. Looking for something with the perfect balance of thoughtfulness and sexy isn’t as easy as it sounds and, these days, people don’t just want to settle for a box of chocolates and a rose from Target!

So you need some Valentine’s Day gift inspiration? Look no further, love bugs! We’ve got some ideas.

FOR HER

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Bralettes. The tradition lingerie gifts are so last year! It’s all about the sexy bralette. The only bad thing about getting your girl a bralette? The amount of choices you have.

Customized Jewellery. Don’t rule jewellery out of the picture if Diamonds aren’t in your price range. You can get adorable customized jewellery that say so much. Get a significant date engraved onto a ring, or a little message on a bracelet!

Baked Goods. A girl loves to eat – there’s no denying it. When it’s sweet and from their significant other, it becomes much more special. Take the time to bake something yourself and give it your own personal touch.

FOR HIM

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Tickets to their favorite band. Are you loved up enough to see your partner’s weird favorite band with them? If so, then this is the perfect thoughtful gift that gives back.

Cologne. How do you want your man to smell like? Tom Ford? Maybe a bit of Versace? This is a gift that is sexy and something that they wouldn’t normally buy for themselves. Win, win!

Man Candle. Yep, they exist. And they probably smell better than your boyfriends’ apartment right now.

 

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Written by Gold Soul blogger Alissa Recil.
She is a design student and a freelance writer from Australia.
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REAL TALK: Things to know before dating a Scorpio

So you think that girl or guy is cute, huh? And they’re a Scorpian? No, we’re not talking about the deadly insect – we’re talking about the gorgeous guys and girls whose birthday falls between October 23 – November 21.

I myself am a Scorpio and, don’t worry, we’re not bitches from another planet, we’re just misunderstood, independent, passionate and proud of it!

 

Once you get close to a Scorpio, they’ll make sure that you stay in their life.
This isn’t a bad thing at all. It’s not them being the clingy type, it’s just them appreciating the relationship that you’ve built. They try their absolute best to be a loyal friend to every person who gives the effort back and they value every strong relationship that they have, so if you try to push them away, it’ll be extra difficult for a Scorpio to cope.

They may be private people, but they want to know every little thing about you.
Getting to know a Scorpio is a whole different ball game. They might come across as someone who is closed off and doesn’t want to share personal things with you, but that’s because they want to sit and listen to you. In time, Scorpio’s will open up – they just need to really trust the person before they do.

You can never keep a secret from a Scorpio.
Don’t even think about keeping secrets from a Scorpio because they’ll figure it out. Again, they aren’t some clingy relationship detective, they just happen to see things and they’re amazing at joining the dots.

They aren’t big on affection, but are great lovers.
You won’t find them asking you for cuddles in the night or to hold their hand on your way to town. They aren’t aggressive, but they definitely know what they want and what they’re doing. So just go with it… 😉

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MUSIC VIBES | Ta-Ku

You’re about to discover some new music right here. Get ready to be introduced to your new favorite tracks by the one and only Ta-Ku.

Reppin’ those electronic sounds all the way from Australia, Ta-Ku is a one of a kind artist that you need to get on right now… maybe after you read this.

If you you’ve caught the love bug (or the complete opposite), Ta-Ku has an album that will surely vibe with you. This true artist has creatively made albums where even the titles tell a story. ‘Songs To Break Up To’ and ‘Songs To Make Up To’ are both beautifully crafted records that will be on repeat for days.

If you’re really into chilled out beats to soundtrack your life (and let’s face it, who isn’t?), then you can’t fail with literally any album by Ta-Ku. Whether you’re feeling inspired – ‘Do What You Love’ will be your go-to tracks. Or if you’re homesick, ‘Latenyc’ becomes your favorite kind of company – mellow and nostalgic.

Where can you find Ta-Ku? Listen to him on Spotify or Soundcloud 🎧
You can also follow Ta-Ku on Twitter and Facebook!

www.takumusic.com

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Things you shouldn’t do when they’re clearly not into you

Here at Gold Soul, we’re all about them golden and positive vibez.

Don’t hang on to negative people and their negative energy. You don’t need that shit and you deserve better! Love and relationships can always be a shitty thing, especially when the feelings aren’t mutual. But sometimes, you just gotta forget about people who don’t matter, leave them behind and keep being a bad bitch.

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1. Avoid being a clingy texter

We never appreciate anyone over-texting us, so if you’re going to send “We should talk” or “Let’s hang out soon” messages every day, they’re probably not going to be interested. Don’t waste your time… or your money.

2. Don’t stalk them on Social Media

We’re all guilty of doing it sometime in our lives. But, if you’re in a situation where you keep running back to this same poisonous person, it’s probably best that you stay far away from their Facebook and especially far away from photos that they’ve been tagged. Yes, they’re smiling and laughing with what looks like a new love interest. You deserve that too…. just not with that person.

3. It’s not a good idea to get drunk and talk to them

If you’re prone to blurting out the truth when you’ve had one too many, you best put your smart cap on before you get your drink on. We all do dumb things when we’re drunk so try not to make a fool of yourself.

4. Don’t assume you’re the only person in their life

They have friends too, and for the most part they’ll be of both genders. Yep, your crush has friends who are male and female. Like any other person, they’ll hang out with their friends, so don’t assume they’ll always work around your schedule.

5. Don’t settle for a half-assed relationship

If this person is obviously not interested, then it’s best that you move on. Best case scenario: they go out with you a few times out of pity or to shut you up. It’s the sad truth. You don’t deserve that half-assed relationship with some dickhead who doesn’t care at all for you.

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LOVE YOURSELF

Yes, Valentine’s Day may be over and done with and you’re probably sick of the word ‘love’, but back up for a sec now. It’s time to really focus on you and only you. It’s time to learn to love the person that you are. Don’t get me wrong, having that special someone in your life to love is an awesome thing, but it’s important that you’re 100% confident with yourself and oozing with positive vibes!

So you’re ready to love yourself? It’s simple and so amazing for your well-being. After you read this, hopefully you’ll feel inspired to go out there and do great things because why the hell not?

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1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. You’re your own original person and that’s what makes you, you. That persons’ Instagram you keep lurking because you think they have a ‘perfect’ life – they’re entire life isn’t revealed through a few little square photos, so it’s no use putting yourself down because you think you’re not living life to the fullest because everyone their has ups and downs (yes, even the Kardashian’s and the Jenner’s).

2. Learn to have a laugh at yourself every once in a while and have fun while doing it. Don’t you want to look back at your life when you’re 90 and think ‘That was such a laugh’?

3. It’s 2015 and unfortunately, there are still judgmental pricks that exist. But, a legend by the name of Rihanna once said “Don’t let the bastards get you down.” Take that advice and realize the beauty of your body – from the spots on your face to the stretchmarks on your thighs, they’re imperfections that should be embraced and loved. They’re a sign that you are an imperfect human and that you’re totally okay with that.

4. Take a moment to appreciate life. Yours in particular. Think about how much you’ve already accomplished so far and think to yourself “Damn, I’m a bad ass bitch”. Having the right attitude is key to fully understanding how to love yourself, so be inspired and do more awesome shit that you can be proud of.

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So, now it’s your turn to take action. Have you told yourself how beautiful you are today?

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5 ways to get over a breakup

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and if you’re feeling heartbroken, you’ve clicked onto the right place. Let me fix your heart because no girl (or guy) deserves to be feeling down and out this Valentine’s Day. Today’s a new day so get out there and carry on being amazing.

1. Cry sesh
Let it all out. It’s no use to bottle up all your emotions so if at one point in your breakup you feel like listening to sad music with a box of tissues in hand, do it. No doubt about it, you’ll feel so much better after you’ve released all your unwanted sadness and anger. It’ll feel like a massive weight has been lifted off your shoulders and you’re finally ready to go out and conquer anything!

2. Don’t think about them
It’s easier said than done, but if you find yourself thinking about your ex, stop yourself and ask yourself if this is good for your happiness (the answer is no). Do what you need to do to get this poisonous person out of your head – rip up and burn photos, delete them on Social Media, block their number, whatever you feel the need to do, do that and get over them.

3. Keep busy
If you’re just chilling all alone with your lonesome self during a breakup, you’re bound to over-think about things you really shouldn’t be thinking about… like your ex. Keeping yourself busy will help you to focus on other things other than dumb boys, so try to incorporate activities in your day like having a few friends over for some horror films, or even try your hand at some challenging DIY projects.

4. Know that your perfect guy/girl is out there
You know what they say – “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”. It’s totally true, except instead of fish, we’re talking about humans and the sea bit is a metaphor for Earth. Just think, there are billions of people that you haven’t met yet and you have the rest of your life to meet as many people as possible so don’t stay so fixated on one person because your perfect guy/girl is out there.

5. Workout and work hard
Zone the f*** out and do a bit of a workout, even if you hate the thought of vigorous physical activity. Put some of your favorite music on to pump you up and go for a run or swing a few punches at a punching bag (and pretend it’s your ex). Let off some steam and WERK towards a stronger, more confident you.

 

Alissa x

 

How to: Fall in Love with Anyone after 1 Date

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Yes, you read the title right! This will be a post about making anyone fall head over fucking red bottom heels in love with you. This isn’t a joke. It’s Friday and I’ve got something to share with you ladies and possibly ‘gents.

Friday is a great time to try out this interesting and proven to work quiz on a date or with someone of the opposite sex willing to. I read about this quiz from an article for The New York Times that was posted about a week and a half ago. The quiz below was originally crafted by a Mandy Len Carton in an essay “To Fall In Love With Someone, Do This“. The essay then refers back to a psychological study conducted exploring intimacy and how accelerating closeness within strangers or people who don’t know each other well can lead to love. Not to beat around the bush…it’s worked before! This is the real deal but it will only work if the two people are completely uninhibited and actually ask/answer all the questions. After getting down to number 36, afterwards the two are supposed to stare into each other’s eyes ranging for 2-4 minutes! Sounds like a load of bull, but it just so happened to work for Mandy. Who knows? It could work for you. Try this exercise on your next date or with that crush you finally managed to ask out…today is the perfect time to try.

THE QUIZ

SET 1 (it’s all in the name of fun)

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

SET 2 (Shit just got real!)

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

SET 3 (be honest…)

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

*After, stare into each other’s eyes for 2-4 minutes. (Seems freaking scary but hang in there)

I haven’t tried this out myself but I think I just might on my next date (hah, if that happens). I’ll let you know how it goes and please don’t hesitate to comment below if you decide to try this out too.

XOXOXO

Porschia 😉